A truly angry child (maybe one you know intimately) can test the patience of a saint, particularly when they’re not met with qualities of a good mother that tame their fire. If you’ve ever had your mom parenting buttons pushed by a feisty spirited kiddo who melts down, maybe embarrassingly so in public—or worse, in front of that oh-so-perfect mom… this is the parenting tip video for you. "Qualities of Moms that Tame Your Angry Child" is part two in this short parenting training video series.
A truly angry child (maybe one you know intimately) can test the patience of a saint, particularly when they’re not met with qualities of a good mother that tame their fire. If you’ve ever had your mom buttons pushed by a feisty spirited kiddo who melts down, maybe embarrassingly so in public—or worse, in front of that oh-so-perfect mom… you’re in the right place.
Hey there, I’m Kelly Nault from Joyfully Parenting and if you find value in this video it would mean a lot if you pass it on.
Now having worked with mothers for over two decades now, I know that it’s only that mythical good mom in her stylish super mom cape, quaffed hair, Jimmy Choo, or Stuart Weitzman heels and ripped abs of steel who’s never had her own tantrum, meltdown, nor caved in at her kids’ demands. True, or true?
The reality is: embracing key good mom qualities is a must if you want to eliminate chronic tension, public embarrassment, or unintentionally raising a spoiled child. BTW if you’re worried your child has entered the spoiled, or rude child territory, and it’s easy to have this happen in the current “selfie” era we’re living in, I invite you to check out my 10 Signs of a Spoiled Child.
Now if you watched part 1 of qualities of a good mom you’ll remember that I met my match in a strong-willed child who screamed at the top of his lungs: “Order me my burger” during the lunch rush at McDonald’s. What I failed to mention is he was doing this while swinging his cane at me. Yup, he was totally blind and I was scared one of the hundreds of eye witnesses would actually call child services and I’d spend a night in the bad-mom slammer.
The crazy thing is that the horrific drama all likely could have been prevented… and, by me! Humbling, I know.
You see, I stepped into one of the most common mom mistakes…… one that inevitably adds fuel to the tantrum fire. Yes, I demanded he order his own burger. Yup, for some stupid bad mom reason I dug my heels in and lost my cool. Ever do that, too? Yup, I totally ignored the sage parenting advice to pick ones’ fights and forgot all about the essential Luminous Parenting steps included in my SMART Mom Path™… actually, truth be told, I hadn’t developed them yet, nor had I yet graduated with master’s in psychology.
The fact is: anytime you allow your mom anger to get the better of you (BTW this can include anger that’s simmering under the surface, too) you’ll increase the drama.
But really what’s a mom to do when her kid’s pushing every button she has… even some she never knew she had?
While there’s things you can do in the heat of the moment, prevention is your best friend. This means utilizing step two on my SMART Mom Path™ called Biology Boosters™. And this can be as simple as making sure your kids are regularly fed, so you can help regulate and dampen your spirited and angry child emotional swings.
Even though I’m often the queen of snacks, that day, we’d rushed out the door and left the fish crackers and apples sprinkled with cinnamon behind and it was a long trip. Now I agree snacks may have not been enough to prevent that meltdown, but it likely would have taken the edge off.
Hunger wasn’t, of course, the only issue. Should I really have made one of my nonnegotiable to be you have to always order your own meal? No. I mean yes, of course I want to foster independence and teach valuable life lessons, but not at the expense of our relationship and certainly not when he wasn’t prepared. Frankly, I had kind of sprung it on him. And timing is everything, especially if you’ve got a hungry strong-willed child on your hands. Many kids, often oldest children, spirited ones and sensitive children like to feel in control. Take this away and they’ll often fight you tooth and nail.
Now I know we’ve only scratched the SMART Mom surface here. If you want to dive deeper into the strong-willed and angry child topic, I invite you to join my free Joyfully Parenting mini course called, Child Tantrums: Your Peaceful Mom Solution. Also, if you found value in this please pass it on. It really means a lot to me.
And until we meet again, may you be more of the mom your child deserves, by being the best version of you!
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